Jillee Bean and the One Good Thing has truly been a game changer in our home. This darling children’s book and program have encouraged good behavior and have helped us as parents, focus on the good in our children.
I met Jill Nystul at the Pinners Conference last November and immediately thought she was such an inspirational woman. She runs an awesome, and very successful blog, One Good Thing by Jillee, full of helpful hacks, DIY projects, recipes and more. Recently, she wrote her first children’s book, Jillee Bean and the One Good Thing. In this beautifully illustrated book (Samantha Hollister whom also illustrated Brother Bear Little Golden Book, illustrated this book) Jill tells the story of her as a little girl. She talks about how important it is to focus on the good things we do. She and her dad decided to create a good thing jelly bean jar, since he used to call her Jillee Bean, that she could drop a jelly bean (I can’t get enough of the Jelly Belly buttered popcorn and coconut flavors) in every time she did something good. I love how she truly focuses on the positive and encourages children to do the same. There are enough negative consequences in little ones lives as they are often times being told “no” and “don’t do that”, focusing on the positives are really what we need to be doing more of as parents.
For my little guys (who was four, almost five when we began the program) personality, this program couldn’t have worked better! We combined it with the token economy mentality. We use a music puzzle that he gets to put a puzzle piece in each time he does something good. The music plays and he gets that immediate “reward” for his actions. Once the puzzle is full, he gets to eat a jelly bean from his jar that we filled up for a few days using Jill’s program. He gets SO excited to put puzzle pieces in when he does something right and loves that he can fill up the puzzle, get a jelly bean, then start again. The number of times he can do this in a day is entirely up to him and how well he wants to listen, follow directions and have a kind disposition. I like combining both because filling up his jar usually takes a few days. This method teaches him patience in not getting an immediate reward, but rather having his focus be on filling his jar with good deed jelly beans. Then, the token economy helps him earn immediate rewards. He can enjoy delicious jelly beans by filling his (8-count) puzzle from doing good things and having that good attitude we talked about before.
For us, this change in focus from constantly giving consequences or telling him no, to praising him for all the good he was doing, has made all the difference in the world. He is thriving and I now know why. He loves that we notice how great of a boy he is! He really does want to be a good listener. The problem with our approach before this darling book and program is that it wasn’t building our child up. Now, we as parents are working harder on noticing the good in not only our children but in each other. Do you have secret parenting tips that have worked for your children? We would love to hear them! Be sure to visit Jill’s blog and enter below to win your very own copy of Jillee Bean and the One Good Thing by Jill Nystul plus a cute little jelly bean jar to get you started.
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